I recently noticed this quote in a back-to-school packet from my daughter's school, and I believe it offers a wonderful perspective on learning. At the same time, it reminded me of the phrase, 'fake it til you make it.'; a concept which has recently fallen out of favor for me.
In thinking more about it, even though the two sentiments seem similar, I believe there is a subtle difference between them: Belief.
The underlying belief with 'fake it til you make it' is that in order to achieve something, one must first pretend to already be or have it. This is inauthentic, and can create misalignment between your head and heart. And even if you're able to convince yourself that it's okay to pretend or be inauthentic, your heart knows better.
When you consider yourself a pretender by faking it, it's much harder to know when you've actually 'made it.' For many, it feels like they're constantly chasing an image that they can never quite reach, and is likely the reason so many people today suffer from imposter syndrome.
Plus you put your focus on your external environment instead of on yourself. 'Making it' is an outcome. A goal. An aspiration. Something we hope will happen.
When your motivation is focused outward, you look to others to validate your achievement of this goal. And that external validation makes you especially dependent on the judgments of others; a high risk situation where any perceived negative feedback that comes your way can be especially damaging, and can reinforce the idea that you're still in 'fake it' mode.
And, if you're stuck in a mindset that you are a fraud or imposter because you believe you're faking it, you can have a very hard time shifting out of that habit of thinking, at which point even compliments can be challenging to accept.
Gandhi's quote, on the other hand, focuses on belief in yourself. The locus of control is internal, with trusting that you have the capacity to learn whatever you desire. With this belief comes confidence and determination, but it is a genuine confidence in your abilities, and determination of interest, instead of a faux confidence based on the slippery slope of hope and determination driven by desperation and fear.
Questions: Are there areas in your life where you feel out of alignment between how you're thinking, feeling and showing up? If so, what steps can you take to focus more on believing in your inner capacity with less reliance on the end result?
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