It is so easy to get stuck in a pattern of thinking that creates limits to how we live our lives. "It is what it is", "It's too late for me", "I've made my choice and now must live with it".
A great deal of this thinking is socially contrived. We were brought up with beliefs that when we make a choice, we must stand firm within it, even if conditions have changed. Noble enough on the surface, but it also represents thinking from generations past where options to change our paths were much more limited than they are today.
These days it is both your prerogative, and your responsibility to change your mind if you no longer align with a choice you've made. Even if doing so doesn't sit well with others. Because it is your life we're talking about. Yes, there are others to consider when making the choice, but those considerations should never take higher presence than what is most important for you.
This line of thinking goes against everything we've been taught. The needs of the others outweigh the needs of the few, or it is selfish to think of yourself over others. And it is selfish. Insofar that selfishness is consideration of yourself. Why shouldn't you think about yourself and how you feel when weighing whether or not a choice you've made is still the right one for you?
We have been taught to own the experiences of others when making decisions about ourselves. Again, considering others is important, but never as important as considering yourself. Because when you own another's experience, you take away their power to make their own choices. You're taking a protective approach to them which eliminates their sovereignty and can hinder their own life journey. At the same time you stifle your own personal power and life journey by claiming your choice to remain as-is in the status quo - even when it no longer suits you - is for someone else's benefit.
If you're feeling down about the life you're leading, that is a clear sign it's out of alignment. When this occurs a change must take place to get in synch with your heart and soul. But to get to the place where any change can occur you must first allow yourself to consider the options. The potential created by allowing yourself to explore different realities is what will help you define your vision and make a shift that is right for you.
In order to allow these expansive thoughts, belief that other realities are available to you is imperative. It's hard to envision a better reality when you've attached limits to it. Expansive thinking with constraints isn't really expansive, and is contradictory to your cause.
You've got to be willing to explore all options, even the ones in that might effect others if you're going to create alignment for yourself. It doesn't mean you have to make choices in those directions, but until you are willing to empower yourself and relinquish the urge to put everyone else's interests above your own, you're present reality will remain your only reality.
Questions: Where in your life are you living in alignment and where are you living out of it? What limits have you set for your ability to imagine a new reality for yourself? Where are you owning the experiences of others and ignoring your own and what is preventing you from imagining a different future?
If you're ready to create a new reality but are having a hard time allowing yourself to dream big or aren't sure how to incorporate changes into your life, Magical Mind - a 4-week online program currently in the works - can help. Or if you'd prefer some 1:1 guidance, give Detanglement Coaching a try.
Change is always easier with support, so if you've got a change in the works but aren't ready to commit to a program or coaching, please find people who can support you in a positive and uplifting way, to help make your transition a smooth and positive one!
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